Friday, October 4, 2013

I'm a Conversexionalist

I've been writing and talking about sex and relationships for almost five years, but I've never claimed to be an expert. I'm not a counselor, therapist, doctor or sexual healer. But after all this time reading about sex and interviewing people about sex and facilitating panel discussions about sex, I realized I do have a specialty. I'm an expert in sparking conversations about sex in midlife. Ergo, my new self proclaimed job title - Conversexionalist!

I'm convinced that intelligent, compassionate conversations about sex have real value. There can be so much shame and fear and misinformation out there regarding this delicate subject - especially in long-term relationships, especially as we get a little older. Women need support to embrace and nurture this vital aspect of their lives and couples need ways to talk about intimacy to grow in their relationships. I don't want to tell people what to do in the bedroom; rather my goal is to provide ideas and inspiration and encouragement and let y'all take it from there.  I know from my own marriage that it's a good thing!

One of my latest "Sex & the Suburbs" conversexions over at Make it Better is about porn. It's probably the thing I'm asked about most frequently by women - my husband watches porn, what does that mean for me? Well, I've posed that question to a trio of North Shore experts, and their answers might surprise you. Click the link to read the full column:

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Also, through Make it Better's chic "Tech Mama Lounge" in Winnetka I'm leading a couple of classes - one just for women, the other just for men - where we'll explore ways to build greater intimacy in relationships. And I'll answer any questions that come up along the way. The women's class is the evening of Wednesday, October 16th, and the men's class is Wednesday October 30th (Devil's Night!) We'll be serving wine and/or craft beer, so if you're interested, please sign up. I promise we will have fun. I have lots of spicy discussion topics and some "treats" to share as well. 

For the full schedule of Tech Mama courses, visit:

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