Thursday, October 10, 2013

Miley, Just Wait 'til You're 40, Young Lady

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Miley Cyrus is only 20 years old, a volatile age when hormones are raging and yet the brain's frontal lobe isn't fully developed, so I'm not going to pass judgement on her recent VMA performance which scandalized much of America. I thought it was mostly silly, anyway.

My beef with Miley is that she slammed middle-aged women's sexuality on national TV. On Monday, Miley told The Today Show's Matt Lauer that she'll stop being so overtly sexual when she hits age 40 because,
"I heard when you turn 40 things start to go a little less sexual," Cyrus said, kicking her legs back and forth as she sat on a tall stool. "So probably around 40, around that time, I heard that’s when people don’t have sex anymore."
Well, Miley, you heard wrong. It's true that women over 40 don't feel much like humping oversized pink teddy bears or fondling themselves with big foam fingers. But that doesn't mean they aren't sexual creatures. In many ways, older women are much more in touch with their sensuality than you.

I'm going to let you in on a little secret, Miley. Most women would not say they were at their sexual peak at age 20, or even at age 30. In fact, according to the (fair warning, it's a site that sells sex toys and erotica), 90% of women over age 30 experience regular orgasms compared to just 23% of younger women.

That statistic (see graphic at right) demonstrates that women in their 20s still have a fair bit to learn about themselves and sex. Which is fine! Sexuality, like most aspects of life, is a journey.

The good news, Miley, is that you're going to be pleasantly surprised when you hit 40. I know I was. Middle aged women know themselves better, feel better about themselves, and have the confidence, experience and wisdom to express themselves fully - both in and out of the bedroom. We just don't need to get naked and make out with a wrecking ball to prove it.

Look, the twenties are wonderful. It's a period of huge growth and everything is new and exciting. But I want young women to know that life after 40 rocks too - and some things get even better with age. Including sex! Miley, twerk all you want, girl, but don't place limits on yourself. Ask your mom - you have a lot to look forward to!

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