Monday, March 27, 2017

Looking my Age, Loving my Stage

Do you ever realize that others don't see you the way you see yourself? It just happened to me.

I joined a new tennis club in the city and Friday I attended a drop-in doubles class for the first time. It's flexible and fun and turned out to be great tennis. After the class the pro, an older woman, came up to me and we chatted a bit. "I've never seen you here before,"she said.
Trying to look city chic for a date night with the old man.

"Yes, I'm a new member," I explained. "But I've been playing tennis at the North Shore Racquet Club since I was 40."

"And that was a long time ago," she said matter of factly.

"Well, yes," I agreed, but inside I was all, "Say what?"

Despite turning 54 yesterday, I guess I've been thinking I project an aura of "a woman of a certain age that could possibly be close to 40." But my new tennis pro didn't hesitate to pronounce that being 40 was clearly part of my distant past.

Oh, whatever.

Since I moved from the suburbs to Chicago and Sioux City, I get confused by people's ages. The friendly couple living in the condo across the hall  - are they 27 or 35? They just look young. A woman in Iowa who's five years younger than me has three grandchildren, while in Chicago a new yoga friend who is my age has kids in middle school. Well, I think she's my age. Maybe she's much younger and I can't tell because I'm deluded about how old I look. Also, my vision isn't so hot.

As a young mom, I bought all those Louise Bates Ames parenting books like "Your Three-Year-Old, Friend or Enemy"  or "Your Eight-Year-Old, Lively and Outgoing" because each year seemed to make such a huge difference in what was required to parent my ever-changing kids. But now, someone's actual age doesn't seem very relevant, even my own.

What seems more important than our age in life is our stage of life and I'm excited about mine - especially living in the city. The energy of the streets and lakefront and all the interesting people, culture, restaurants, and nightlife has me pumped. I'm trying to amp up my style and get out of my jeans and sneakers occasionally, but my goal is more "city chic" than "hip and young."

Most importantly, I feel good! I can jog five miles, ski the Rockies, do a yoga backbend and play competitive tennis. What does my age have to do with any of that?

In fact, it just occurred to me as I'm writing this... perhaps I was too sensitive about my tennis pro's age comment. Maybe she didn't mean 40 was a long time ago because of the way I looked. Maybe she was saying that because of my tennis prowess!

I'm gonna go with that.

I say let's keep the focus on life's stages and not get hung up on our ages. For inspiration, I'll leave you with a couple quotes from some kick-ass women. (source: Goodreads)

Ani DiFranco
“If you're not getting happier as you get older, then you're fuckin' up”
― Ani DiFranco

Sophia Loren
“There is a fountain of youth: it is your mind, your talents, the creativity you bring to your life and the lives of people you love. When you learn to tap this source, you will truly have defeated age.”
― Sophia Loren

PS - For fun, upload a picture of yourself to be analyzed by before they solve their technical difficulties. Their age-guessing robot said I look 24!

1 comment:

Panty Buns said...

You did look fabulous in your 'city chic' outfit!
I also think you would look fabulous wearing the same (or similar to it) outfit your daughter wore in your May 31, 2013 'Forty Fabulous' blog post titled:
"Style Inspiration - My Daughter Emma".

I love that quote from Ani DiFranco!
I'm sure I would love the quote from Sophia Loren if I could stop having senior moments before getting to the end of it.
You really do look quite young!
In contrast, I am perpetually taken aback at how old I look in the mirror (you are considerably younger than I).

P.S.: I tried downloading and then uploading a photo of the Adams Family's "Lurch" to the 'How-old' site: The robot said 37 years old. Hmmm.
Upon my second photo upload (of myself) to the 'How-old' site the robot said it couldn't find a face???
When I uploaded a third photo (of me) the robot said I look my age - 90,000,000. My palaeontologist disagrees. Okay, I admit that I simply made that last one up - but I am older than you.

P.P.S.: I love your YouTube channel and you video "Stylish Tops for Spring".
I really dread winter and I really love Spring.